People often don’t know how to talk to those who are sick or in pain. And sometimes they say things that can be quite hurtful to those with an invisible illness.
Here are some things that those with chronic pain wish others would say to them according to author Toni Bernhard.
# 1 “You look so good, but how are you really feeling?”
It’s hard for us to respond to comments like, “You look so good” (or the always dreaded, “But you don’t look sick”) because we know that you’re just trying to be nice.
If we respond truthfully with, “Thanks, but I feel awful,” you might be embarrassed or think we’re being ungrateful. It would be such a relief to be asked a question that goes to the heart of the matter: “How are you really feeling?”